The outgoing and innovative ENTJ may seem an unlikely match for the introverted, traditional ISTJ, and indeed these types are different in many ways. Still, they have more than enough in common–and more than enough to learn from one another–to establish and maintain close, intimate partnerships.
Different as they are, ENTJs and ISTJs often make great teams. They have quite a bit in common, and many of their differences, under healthy circumstances, can prove advantageous to the ENTJ/ISTJ couple. For example, ENTJs and ISTJs concentrate on different things when making plans; when they work together, their plans are more likely to prove more successful.
SUMMARY CHART: ENTJ AND ISTJ COMPATIBILITY VERSUS POSSIBLE CONFLICTS
|ENTJs and ISTJs value logic and reason||Progressive vs Traditional values|
|These types share an appreciation for order||ENTJs and ISTJs have different communicative styles|
|ENTJs and ISTJs have potentially complementary communication style||These types approach conflict resolution differently|
|These types have complementary approaches to planning||ENTJs and ISTJs have different social needs|
THREE REASONS WHY ENTJ AND ISTJ ARE GOOD FOR EACH OTHER
Despite their differences, ENTJs and ISTJs can be good for each other in many ways, including:
- ENTJs and ISTJs have different, though potentially compatible communication styles
- These types can cover each other’s blind spots when planning for the future
- ISTJs can offer a reality check to the often-impractical ENTJ
Though ENTJs and ISTJs communicate differently, their communication styles can be compatible. Like many extrovert/introvert couples, ENTJ/ISTJ pairings often slide into a comfortable groove regarding communication, with each partner playing to their natural strengths.
ENTJs and ISTJs see the world differently, and while this can create conflict, it also presents opportunities for ENTJ and ISTJ partners to watch each other’s backs. For example, these types can sure-up each other’s weak spots when making plans; the ENTJ can keep the big picture in focus, while the ISTJ attends to the details.
ENTJs are always looking for ways to improve on what exists; as such, they can sometimes become impractical in their desire for continued improvement. An ISTJ partner can constructively point out where their ENTJ friend’s idea is unrealistic.
THREE REASONS WHY ENTJ AND ISTJ ARE NOT GOOD FOR EACH OTHER
Of course, not all ENTJ/ISTJ couples will thrive. When ENTJ and ISTJ partners run into trouble, it’s often for one of the following reasons:
- ENTJs and ISTJs have potentially opposing values
- These types have vastly different social needs
- ENTJs and ISTJs communicate differently
ENTJs and ISTJs have some contradictory values, and while this isn’t necessarily a bad thing, it does increase the potential for conflict between these types. For example, ENTJs value change and tend to have more progressive values than their more traditional ISTJ partners.
Another reason ENTJs and ISTJs may not be good for each other is these types have different tolerances for socializing. As extroverts, ENTJs thrive in social situations, and are likely to have overflowing social calendars. ISTJs, on the other hand, are introverts who need a good deal of time alone.
Though the communication styles of ENTJs and ISTJs are generally complementary, they are different enough to be a potential source of conflict between ENTJ and ISTJ partners. For example, ENTJs communicate more abstractly than their ISTP partners, preferring to discuss ideas to things.
Healthy communication is a key component of every successful relationship; how a couple communicates affects all aspects of their lives together. As mentioned above, ENTJs and ISTJs have different, though potentially compatible communication styles. With some awareness and effort on the part of both partners, there’s no reason ENTJ/ISTJ couples can’t enjoy largely healthy communication.
WHERE ARE THEY STRONG AND WHY?
As mentioned earlier, ENTJs and ISTJs often find a comfortable communicative dynamic, where the ENTJ does most of the talking and the ISTJ the listening. This level of back-and-forth plays to each type’s natural strengths and most of the time serves the ENTJ/ISTJ couple well.
WHERE DO THEY HAVE PROBLEMS AND WHY?
ENTJs and ISTJs may run into communication problems for a number of reasons. One example is the way these types approach communication. ENTJs tend to communicate more abstractly than their ISTJ counterparts; they prefer discussing ideas and their interpretation of events. ISTJs prefer discussing facts that can be backed up with verifiable data, not someone’s analysis of those facts.
HOW MIGHT THEY IMPROVE COMMUNICATION?
There are many ways ENTJ/ISTJ couples might improve the quality of their communication. For example, the expressive ENTJ should be careful not to unwittingly monopolize conversations; they must also take care not to misinterpret their partner’s lack of an immediate response as a failure to engage.
For their part, the ISTJ partner should be willing to step beyond their comfort zones from time to time, if only to show their partners they’re engaged in the discussion. It can also be helpful for extrovert/introvert couples to set some boundaries or even rules regarding important conversations.
WHERE DO THEY CONNECT? WHY?
ENTJs and ISTJs are significantly different personality types, and it will likely take a shared interest or common hobby to bring them together. Once they recognize each other as kindred spirits regarding their preference for logic over feelings, they’ll be more likely to take that connection to the next level and begin to establish a friendship, or more.
ENTJ AND ISTJ: VALUES
Few things say as much as about a person as what they value. ENTJ/ISTJ couples share some common values, but they also have significant values differences they’ll have to navigate. For example, ENTJs are generally innovators, whereas ISTJs have more traditional values.
THREE THINGS AN ENTJ VALUES
- Spending time with others
ENTJs are innovators who are always looking for ways to improve the world around them. Unlike their more traditional ISTJ partners, ENTJs embrace and even champion change.
Like their ISTJ counterparts, ENTJs place a high value on reason and logic. Neither type is likely to let their feelings get the best of them when arguing a point, which bodes well for the ENTJ/ISTJ couple’s ability to manage conflict.
Spending time around and with others is also of great value to ENTJs. As extroverts, this type uses socializing as a means of relaxing and rejuvenating.
THREE THINGS AN ISTJ VALUES
ISTJs value order, a trait they share with their ENTJ partners. From the way they schedule their time, to the way the organize their physical environments, the ISTJ’s penchant for order permeates nearly every aspect of their lives.
Unlike their innovative ENTJ counterparts, ISTJs are wary of change, usually preferring to rely instead on the institutions and systems that have served humanity, however imperfectly, so far.
ISTJs also value objectivity. Like ENTJs, they prize logic and reason and try to approach situations with as little personal bias as possible.
HOW DO THEIR VALUES MATCH UP?
The values of ENTJs and ISTJs match up very well in some areas, but in others they conflict significantly. For example, both of these personalities value order, logic and reason, but ENTJs are more progressive-minded, whereas ISTJs tend to be traditionalists.
LOVE LANGUAGE/LOVE STYLE
Despite being different in many significant ways, ENTJs and ISTJs speak similar love languages. In fact, two of the three most common ways these types show love for their partners are the same.
WAYS ENTJs SHOW THEIR LOVE
- Spending quality time with their loved ones
- Physical affection
- Speaking words of affirmation
Spending quality one-on-one time with their partners is the most common way ENTJs show their affection. This represents a significant concession on the part of the extroverted ENTJ, for whom free time is often difficult to come by.
The second most popular way ENTJs show love is by use of physical touch, followed closely by speaking words of affirmation.
WAYS ISTJs SHOW THEIR LOVE
- Spending quality time with their significant others
- Performing acts of service for their partners
- Speaking words of affirmation
The most common way ISTJs show love for their partners is by spending quality time with them. Performing acts of service is the second most popular love language among this Myers-Briggs personality type.
Speaking words of affirmation is the ISTJ’s third most popular choice of love language. This represents a significant gesture for the introverted ISTJ, who is usually happy to let their partner do most of the talking.
ENTJ AND ISTJ IN BED
ENTJs tend to have passionate, even adventurous sexual energy. Their take-charge personality often carries over into the bedroom and may even prove intimidating to some. This type likes to immerse themselves in acts of intimacy, as they are otherwise prone to distraction.
ISTJs are generally less reserved in the bedroom than they are in everyday life, but they’re still less likely to initiate intimacy than their ENTJ partners. When these types are able to get past their differences, they’re likely to enjoy a mutually satisfying sex life.
II. ENTJ AND ISTJ COUPLES/MARRIAGE
HOW DO ENTJs AND ISTJs MATCH UP IN LONG-TERM ROMANTIC RELATIONSHIPS?
ENTJ MALE AND ISTJ FEMALE
Despite some significant personality differences, ENTJs and ISTJs have the potential to form healthy and fulfilling relationships. The ENTJ male/ISTJ female pairing certainly has a reasonable chance at success, though there are some potential conflicts that can arise.
For example, the ISTJ female may feel relegated to the margins of conversation by her more verbally expressive partner; conversely, there’s a chance the ENTJ male may be put off by what they perceive as a lack of enthusiasm on the part of their more reserved counterpart.
ENTJ FEMALE AND ISTJ MALE
The ENTJ female/ISTJ male couple also has at least a reasonable shot at happiness. In this pairing, though, there’s a chance the ENTJ female might find her more traditional partner old-fashioned or even stodgy. On the other hand, there’s also a chance the ISTJ male may be put off by his partner’s sometimes impractical ideas.
III. ENTJ AND ISTJ CONFLICTS
The potential for conflict is inherent in all human interactions. Every couple will have to deal with their share of conflict, and how a couple handles conflict is a good indicator of their chances for long-term success. The ENTJ/ISTJ couple is no exception to these rules and will have to learn to successfully navigate conflict when necessary.
POSSIBLE AREAS OF CONFLICT (AND WHY?)
When conflict does arise between partners in an ENTJ/ISTJ relationship, many times it can be attributed to one of the following causes:
- ENTJs and ISTJs have conflicting values
- These types have very different social needs
- ENTJs and ISTJs communicate differently
The different social needs of these types may also prove a source of potential conflict for the ENTJ/ISTJ couple. Unless ENTJ/ISTJ partners learn to understand and respect one another’s needs, some degree of conflict is likely.
ENTJs and ISTJs communicate differently, which can result in miscommunication and conflict. As mentioned earlier, ENTJs tend to communicate more abstractly, while ISTJs prefer discussing facts over theories.
HOW DO THEY RESOLVE CONFLICT?
ENTJs and ISTJs have largely similar approaches to conflict resolution. For example, both types find conflict stressful, but are unafraid to confront it when necessary. Also, ENTJs and ISTJs both resort to logic when resolving conflict.
There are some differences in how these types resolve conflict, though; for example, ENTJs like to address conflict as soon as it arises, whereas ISTJs prefer to take some time to think through possible solutions.
HOW DO THEY BUILD TRUST?
Despite their outgoing natures, ENTJs are often guarded about their feelings. As thinking types, they look for an intellectual connection with friends and tend to trust people who share their ideas. Because of this, ENTJs will be more likely to trust ISTJs who are willing to open up about their thoughts.
Like their ENTJ counterparts, ISTJs are guarded people reticent to delve too deeply into the realm of feelings. Hard-working by nature, ISTJs often feel underappreciated or not appreciated at all for their contributions, making it difficult for them to trust. An ISTJ is more likely to trust an ENTJ who is savvy enough to understand when they need some space, and who gives it to them.
IV. ENTJ AND ISTJ: APPROACH TO FRIENDSHIP
ENTJs and ISTJs approach friendship very differently. Outgoing and energetic, ENTJs make friends more easily than their ISTJ counterparts. ENTJs like to learn as much as they possibly can about their friends and enjoy long, engaging conversations. People looking for a friend to agree with them all the time should avoid this type, as ENTJs are known for challenging their friend’s ideas.
As introverts, ISTJs aren’t likely to have as many friends as their ENTJ partners. Reserved and traditional, ISTJs are rarely playful or whimsical; what they bring to a friendship is dependability and loyalty.
ENTJ AND ISTJ FRIENDSHIP DYNAMICS
ENTJs and ISTJs are both thinking personality types, which contributes greatly to their friendship potential. Both types find it easier to relate with others logically and share a distrust for the variable nature of feelings. These types also tend to relate better with others who share their interests and values; this may prove a challenge, though by no means an insurmountable one, to the ENTJ/ISTJ couple.
WHAT MAKES THEM GOOD FOR EACH OTHER AS FRIENDS?
Despite their differences, there are a number of ways ENTJs and ISTJs can be quite good for one another as friends. For instance, the ISTJ can serve as a check on their innovative friend’s sometimes impractical ideas. On the other hand, the ENTJ friend can help the ISTJ deal with, and even support change when necessary.
COULD THEY BE CLOSE FRIENDS?
Despite their significant differences, ENTJs and ISTJs can indeed become close friends.
WHAT ARE SOME AREAS THAT MIGHT CAUSE THEM PROBLEMS AS FRIENDS
ENTJ/ISTJ friends will encounter many of the same challenges faced by ENTJ/ISTJ romantic partners. Different communication styles, opposing values, and different social needs are all potential causes of strife between ENTJ and ISTJ partners.
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