The free-spirited ISFP and the laid-back INFJ can make a creative pair. Though there are many differences between the two types, they have the potential to build a positive and mutually beneficial relationship that is capable of pushing each of them to grow both as individuals and as artists.
Generally, ISFPs value freedom while INFJs prefer order and peace. Therefore, it’s often said that a relationship between two of them is sure to be complicated. While that’s true, it’s only half the story.
ISFPs and INFJs are both usually compassionate and creative people. And while their relationship will likely frustrate them at times, there is also a big chance that both partners will find themselves changed for the better and more sure of themselves after being together.
ISFPs are simple. They usually just want freedom, love, and to have some occasional fun. INFJs are often a little more complex and seek to connect deeply with others.
Because of these traits, ISFPs often want a partner who won’t expect too much from them or tie them down too strictly, while INFJs typically want a partner who’s intelligent and open so that they can have many deep conversations.
Summary Chart: ISFP and INFJ Compatibility vs. Possible Conflicts
|Both are creative||ISFP’s realism against INFJ’s boundless ambition|
|Both have strong values and beliefs||ISFP’s tendency to live in the present against INFJ’s focus on the future|
|Both can be sensitive||ISFP’s stubbornness and need for freedom could come into conflict with INFJ’s desire for order and harmony|
3 Reasons Why ISFP and INFJ Are Good for Each Other
Given the key similarities between these two types, there are a few reasons why the ISFP and the INFJ can be good for each other.
- They can enhance each other’s creativity
- They can strengthen each other’s values or beliefs
- They can understand each other’s sensitivity.
Both the ISFP and the INFJ may have creative aptitudes that their relationship may help deepen.
Because ISFPs are realists, their creative works can suffer from a lack of innovation or flair. Additionally, their occasional lack of routine or discipline may lead to them being unable to realize their full potential due to their unreliability.
By being with an INFJ, ISFPs can learn to explore things beyond their five senses in a way that could help make their creative endeavors more imaginative and original. Also, INFJ’s drive and organizational skills could help ISFPs be more serious about and committed to their artistry.
As for INFJs, their creative works and ambitions can sometimes lack realism. They can also get so caught up in possibilities that they fail to settle on any one direction or decision. Therefore, INFJs can benefit from ISFP’s realism and groundedness.
The second reason why ISFPs and INFJs can be good together is because both of them are passionate people with strong values or beliefs.
Because they are both passionate people who hold such strong beliefs, any relationship between the two of them will help them to either feel supported in their beliefs (if they share the same convictions) or feel more certain of their beliefs (if they differ).
If an ISFP and an INFJ are together, and they share the same beliefs, then the ISFP will likely help the INFJ become more active about their convictions. INFJs are usually fine with keeping their ideals on the cerebral level, but ISFPs are more active because they are doers.
Because of this, if an ISFP and INFJ couple share the same ideas, then the ISFP will likely push the INFJ to do more concrete things about their beliefs. This can be very good for the INFJ because they can gain a lot from the real-world experiences.
ISFPs may have strong convictions but they usually don’t really feel them on an emotional level. More often than not, their ideas are more rooted in practicality than in any true emotional connection. This is where INFJs can step in to aid ISFPs because they can help them develop more emotional connections to their beliefs, and these stronger emotional ties can help ISFPs strengthen their drives to promote active changes supported by their ideas.
As for when the ISFP and INFJ’s beliefs differ, their relationship can still benefit them because throughout their relationship, they will likely be forced to explain or defend their perspectives which will help them to better understand and feel connected to their beliefs.
As for the final reason why ISFPs and INFJs can be good for each other, both of these types can be very sensitive. Being together, these two types may find that they feel more supported and cared for by each other when they are feeling sensitive, especially when compared to how they may feel when in relationships with thinking types.
3 Reasons Why ISFP and INFJ Are Not Good for Each Other
While ISFPs and INFJs can be very good for each other, their stark differences in some key areas can also make them bad for each other as well. Here are a few of the reasons why these two types may not be good for each other.
- They have different needs and values
- ISFPs are stubborn and INFJs are passive and avoidant
- They communicate differently
ISFPs are freedom personified while INFJs would rather have a set routine. The problem is evident from this alone. Unless they are both willing and able to compromise, a relationship between an ISFP and an INFJ is sure to be difficult.
ISFPs are often strongheaded, while INFJs are passive and like to avoid conflict. This means that when this couple hits a road bump in their relationship, it will likely not be the ISFP who compromises. Instead, INFJ will likely avoid the conflict by sacrificing their own desires and will be passive about ISFP’s actions that make them feel uncomfortable.
This relationship dynamic is not only not sustainable but also it will be damaging for both the ISFP and the INFJ. The ISFP will likely not grow as much as they could because of the INFJ being too lenient and compliant, and the INFJ will feel resentful and unhappy because of the ISFPs obstinance.
After this relationship dynamic goes on for a while, the INFJ will likely erupt on the ISFP (or some other innocent/unsuspecting third party) because of everything they’re holding in boiling over, and after their eruption, they will likely feel regretful.
The ISFP will feel confused and surprised by the INFJ’s behavior because, from their perspective, they likely wouldn’t even be aware of just how frustrated the INFJ is or how much they’d sacrificed until that point.
The reason for these starkly different perspectives is because INFJs are Extraverted Feelers (they have Fe in their cognitive functions stack), but ISFPs are Introverted Feelers (they have Fi in their stacks).
This means that while INFJs can understand other people’s emotions and points of view well, ISFPs can be a bit slow when it comes to other people’s emotions or perspectives because their feeling trait is turned inward.
In other words, while INFJs focus on and care about the feelings of others, ISFPs are focused more inwardly and are primarily concerned with themselves.
Where their feelings are focused isn’t the only area of difference between ISFPs and INFJs. They also communicate in vastly different ways too. Because ISFPs have Extraverted Sensing (Se) and INFJs have Introverted Intuition (Ni), ISFPs are more realistic and communicate in a way that’s focused on what’s real.
INFJs are more imaginative and visionary. They care more about the future and what can be rather than just what is. This can drive ISFPs up the wall, and they can get bored by and confused with the INFJ’s way of thinking and communicating; additionally, they can also minimize the INFJ’s thoughts and ideas.
Where are they strong and why?
ISFPs are creative realists while INFJs are innovative visionaries. Together, they can come up with some incredibly original and imaginative ideas.
Where do they have problems and why?
When it comes to communication, ISFPs and INFJs can have some problems due to how differently they communicate and see the world. ISFPs are more straightforward and only concern themselves with what’s concrete, but INFJs are more abstract and focus more on future potential.
ISFPs and INFJs can also have problems when communicating because INFJs like deeper conversations than what ISFPs are sometimes willing or able to have. This can make INFJs feel bored mentally in the relationship.
How can ISFP and INFJ improve communication?
ISFPs and INFJs can improve communication by recognizing and acknowledging each other’s strengths and trying to compromise. Also, INFJs should seek mental stimulation from others outside their relationship rather than trying to push their ISFP partner to be deeper, and ISFPs need to accept that INFJs are more abstract and understand that there is validity to INFJ’s ideas too.
Where do they connect? Why?
ISFPs and INFJs usually both prefer to live slower-paced lives, and they both get tired from too much activity or chaos. They both like to spend time alone and keep away from too much social interaction. These similarities between them make it easier for them to connect.
ISFP & INFJ: Values
Both ISFPs and INFJs are strongly driven by their values.
3 Things an ISFP Values
3 Things an INFJ Values
- Connecting with others
How do their values match up?
ISFP’s desire for unimpeded freedom clashes with INFJ’s need for harmony. While ISFPs can be caring people, if the wants or needs of others clash with their own desire for freedom, ISFPs can be quite selfish people and stubbornly choose their freedom over harmony in the relationship. This means that the majority of the compromising on this regard, if not all of it, will have to come from the INFJ.
ISFPs value individuality while INFJs value connecting with others. These two values can clash when INFJ’s desire to connect with their ISFP partner pushes against their partner’s desire for personal space and boundaries.
ISFP’s desire for flexibility clashes with the INFJ’s need for order. INFJs like to plan things out while ISFPs prefer an open schedule.
Love Language/Love Style
Both ISFPs and INFJ have Physical Touch and Quality Time has preferred love languages.
How ISFPs Show Their Love
ISFPs show their love by doing practical things for their partner.
How INFJs Show Their Love
INFJs show their love by wanting to know everything about their partner so that they can connect with them more deeply.
ISFP and INFJ in Bed
Both ISFP and INFJ are sensitive and passionate types. Sex is more than just an action for both of them, and they prefer to have an emotional connection with their partner. Both ISFPs and INFJs are usually open to experimenting in bed.
ISFP and INFJ Couples/Marriage
ISFP Male and INFJ Female
Being reliable can be an issue for ISFP males, so their female INFJ partner may have to take a more dominating role in the relationship. Keeping the home and daily life under control will likely fall onto the shoulders of the INFJ female in the relationship.
INFJ Male and ISFP Female
INFJ males can be controlling and clingy. This can feel stifling to ISFP females. Also, if the INFJ male has a more conservative view on what a woman should be, this can be a problem in their relationship with an ISFP female, as ISFP females often are more free-spirited and harder to limit or control.
ISFP and INFJ Conflicts
Possible Areas of Conflict (and Why)
The two main possible areas for conflicts in relationships between ISFPs and INFJs are that:
- They communicate differently, ISFPs are concrete while INFJs are abstract
- They have different values, ISFPs value freedom and flexibility while INFJs value order and routine
How do ISFP and INFJ resolve conflict?
Compromise will be their only way to resolve conflict, as their differences are so stark that they don’t have many shared points they can agree on, so they will constantly have to meet in the middle.
How do ISFJ and INFJ build trust?
ISFPs build trust with INFJs when they are more reliable and less stubborn. INFJs build trust with ISFPs when they respect their need for freedom and are honest about their real feelings on conflicts.
ISFP and INFJ Friendships
Though they are quite different, ISFPs and INFJs can be great friends who will likely support each other emotionally and creatively.
ISFP vs. INFJ: Approach to Friendship
ISFPs approach to friendship is doing practical things for their friends. INFJ’s approach to friendship is being a safe spot for their friends and acting as someone their friends can turn to for emotional support.
ISFP & INFJ Friendship Dynamics
ISFP and INFJs are both feeling types, so they can be a comfortable pair as friends. Their friendship dynamic will likely be that the ISFP will help build the INFJ’s confidence while the INFJ helps organize the ISFP.
What makes ISFP and INFJ good for each other as friends?
ISFPs and INFJs are good for each other as friends because they are both introverted and feeling types. They won’t push each other to do too much socially, and they each will understand the other person’s sensitivity.
Could they be close friends?
Yes. ISFPs and INFJs can be close friends. They are both creative and caring people, and they have the potential to make each other grow.
What are some areas that might cause them problems as friends?
ISFP’s lack of punctuality or reliability may cause problems in their friendships as well as INFJ’s occasional rigidness. Traveling together can be an issue if the INFJ wants to plan everything out while the ISFP wants to just go with the flow.
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